After visiting several homes today where there are young and able-bodied people living and their sidewalks minimally at best shoveled, I’ve come to the conclusion that either people are getting really lazy or they’re so pre-occupied with some sort of interior world within their homes that they pay little or no attention to what’s going on outside their little virtual-like reality boxes. I guess to top it off, I drove past a home with an enclosed front porch with no shades or curtains and in full public eye, there stands against the wall a mattress. A used and un-covered mattress is about the most personal of things I would consider having exposed to the world. Oh well, I guess we can say we’re definitely not living in Victorian England where all things considered private took place behind closed doors and shuttered windows. When I mentioned something to a young person several days ago about their snow shoveling practices, I received a bit of a “deer in the headlights” look of complete detachment.
Thinking about this today between appointments caused me to remember a conversation I had with a scholarly woman I’ve known for some years. We happened upon the subject of the evolution of families in a generational sense and how there seems to be a pattern of that particular family either growing more and more loving and selfless within the unit, or more dark and selfish. I mentioned to her a book that I read some years ago by the name, The Soul’s Code. The author, James Hillman had it published in 1997 as a hardbound. He was a psychiatrist who delved more into the study of the human psyche. He believed that all people were born with an “acorn” of abilities that if given the proper nurturing, would grow to the greatest extent of the unique qualities given them by the oak tree from which they came. There were a number of case studies of well known families in history and how the effect of the either positive or negative forces within a particular family affected the development of the acorns contained in their immediate families.
The idea of what has been happening with purpose in the lives of many men was also contained in the book. It seems far more men of today lack purpose than in prior generations whereby they appear to sometimes feel out of sync with the direction they are moving within their families. My take on those pages was that purpose or let’s use another word, calling has become more clouded by the changes that have taken place with their roles and duties. There are no longer standards set or expectations to be met simply because we are expected to follow the new rules of today and likely go to college and enter a field that will provide the highest paying salary to be had in the work world. If their mental abilities are capable of doing such, then that is what’s now expected of them. A young man spoke to me today about an older cousin who owns three homes in the western States where he occasionally lives. He said he really gets tired of his aunt bragging about how successful her son is.
I’d like to crawl into that wealthy man’s psyche to see if he considers himself truly fulfilled. Did he find his purpose or calling in life? It would be interesting to find how many people living in today’s world have grown to the limits of their soul’s code.